Disciplining toddlers can be tricky but it is doable says experts. Settings rules, being consistent & not going overboard with limits is the key. It\u2019s a tender age where we have to define what\u2019s acceptable and not acceptable to them along with giving them space to grow & build their personalities. Strong willed toddlers is a difficult set to handle but its important not to crush their will power as this will get them success & happiness in future. Positive parenting has to be a mix of restrains & freedom. It does get difficult sometimes & we lose control over situations as emotions takes control but it\u2019s important to regain control.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Several mothers of toddlers struggle on a daily basis disciplining their children, getting them to behave best, obey them & instil values in them.\u00a0 We bring here excerpts from the chat for parents who missed the session.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Parent \u2013<\/strong> My in-laws are spoiling my child and they don\u2019t even let me build discipline in her routine. How do I ensure some rules?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Shalini <\/strong>\u2013 My suggestion would be to find a way to work together as a family and work with some basic ground rules that work out best for your child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Parent \u2013<\/strong> Too many rules for my child, can that backfire?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Shalini \u2013<\/strong> Choose your battles and work with the most appropriate rules for that age and reinforce these instead of inundating your child with too many rules.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Parent \u2013<\/strong>\u00a0Is there any secret to raising well-behaved children?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Shalini \u2013<\/strong> Modeling rather than preaching, positive reinforcements and consistency in your approach towards your child can be a great asset and will definitely yield the best results.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Parent-<\/strong> How do I stop my toddler from hitting others? We keep getting so many complaints from others where he goes to play.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Shalini \u2013<\/strong> Recognise the child\u2019s emotion by telling the child that you understand that he\/she is angry and they can come to you for support. Then in a firm voice and while maintaining eye contact, tell the child that \u2018we keep our hands to ourselves as it hurts when we hit.\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n Parent \u2013<\/strong> How can I be a YES mother & still discipline my child?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Shalini-<\/strong>\u00a0It should not be about giving in to all demands of your child but drawing reasonable boundaries between what is acceptable and unacceptable behaviour and being consistent in your approach.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Parent \u2013<\/strong> How do I make my child listen to me without shouting or losing my temper?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Shalini \u2013<\/strong> Maintaining a soft tone and articulating what you have to say as a positive statement instead of starting with a \u2018No\u2019 works and should help you see the desired behavioural outcomes in your child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Parent \u2013<\/strong>\u00a0Is punishment the right way of parenting?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Shalini \u2013<\/strong>\u00a0Positive reinforcements rather than punishment should be your approach. Labelling positive behaviour rather than reprimanding negative behaviour works better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Parent \u2013<\/strong>\u00a0Do kids understand why we are angry at them?\u00a0 What\u2019s the Time-out technique to disciple children?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Shalini \u2013<\/strong>\u00a0Labelling the cause for why you are upset rather than just the fact that you are angry will help the child understand the cause. Rather than the time-out technique, we recommend calming zones where the child can divert his pent up energies using squeezy balls or similar calming tools.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Parent \u2013<\/strong> When to be firm and when to go easy with my little one?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Shalini <\/strong>\u2013 Be consistent and continue to be firm with the boundaries you\u2019ve set. You should model the behaviour you expect from your child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Parent \u2013<\/strong>\u00a0Whenever I say no to my child for anything, my child starts creating a tantrum. But then my husband agrees and gives him what he wants. I am unable to make understand both of them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Shalini \u2013<\/strong>\u00a0Both parents need to work together and set some ground rules. Ignoring the tantrum rather than giving in should be the approach. You should reinforce that you will listen to the child once he\/she calms down and not while they are throwing the tantrum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Parent \u2013<\/strong> My child is hyperactive and always finding ways to get in trouble.<\/p>\n\n\n\n How do I control his nervous energy would rules help?<\/p>\n\n\n\n