{"id":3603,"date":"2018-04-27T10:00:50","date_gmt":"2018-04-27T04:30:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.proeves.com\/blog\/?p=3603"},"modified":"2018-04-27T10:00:50","modified_gmt":"2018-04-27T04:30:50","slug":"managing-toddler-tantrums-all-that-parents-should-know-regarding-tantrums","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.proeves.com\/blog\/index.php\/2018\/04\/27\/managing-toddler-tantrums-all-that-parents-should-know-regarding-tantrums\/","title":{"rendered":"Managing Toddler tantrums : Things all parents should know"},"content":{"rendered":"

Having gone through the live chat and sailing in the same boat of handling a Toddler entering the overtly famous \u201cTerrible two\u201d, makes me emphathise even more with tiny tots.The child Psychologist within me obviously understands the psychology behind this phase but the mother within me fights faces these challenges everyday.I feel terribly sorry for my baby having undergo a tug of war between his developed skills and developing skills to be unable to express himself clearly melting down into a tantrum ultimately.This is a period of testing parents patience and using creative skills to the maximum.<\/p>\n

Let me explain the biological basis for a tantrum thrown around:<\/p>\n

Neurological reason<\/strong><\/p>\n

The frontal lobe of your toddler\u2019s brain (the part that controls logic, reasoning, planning, judgment, self-control, and emotional processing) is underdeveloped. Hence, the child feels frustrated and angry that they can\u2019t touch the forbidden, but can\u2019t really mentally process those feelings. Toddlers lacks the self-control necessary to keep those emotions in check and lacks verbal skills to communicate their skills effectively, the way an adult would. Therefore, they resort to kicking and shrieking and throwing things, as physical motor development is way ahead developed than the developing language skills. The child is not proficient enough to express their needs effectively.<\/p>\n

Cognitive reason<\/strong><\/p>\n

As the child reaches 2 years, egocentric thinking takes a centre-stage where the child is so engrossed in egocentric thoughts that they believe their view of the world is shared by everyone around them. The child cannot comprehend that there are other ways of looking at the world and interpreting information. This punts up emotions and results in a major meltdown.<\/p>\n

Temper tantrums can however be tackled well by simply being careful to intervene at the points where frustration might take over the child and lead to crying or throwing fit. For eg. In the process of making your child self-reliant, and letting them independently take over the task, identify the point when the child is unable to do the task and gets frustrated at his\/her inability to accomplish the same. A temper tantrum before reaches its tipping point can thus be resolved in one of the situations like the above, which is \u2018Timely intervention\u2019. Similarly it is critical to recognise the time when intervention is needed. It is necessary to notice the following:<\/p>\n

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  1. Identifying the triggers<\/strong>: Is the child tired, bored, hungry\u00a0or overstimulation, that is avoiding overscheduling or planning a big excursion (like grocery shopping) before naptime. And making sure to leave the house with your toddler\u2019s tummy full \u2014 and with healthy snacks and a favourite small toy or book.<\/li>\n
  2. Identifying the purpose of the tantrums<\/strong>: Tantrums come in two forms: frustration tantrums and manipulative tantrums<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n