Its a daily routine in house to hear repetitive NO from my 3 year old for everything.\u00a0Sometimes the “no’s” start as soon as the day begins. My son tells me “no” for everything from brushing the teeth to eating his dinner. Hearing NOs for everything from him, makes life difficult for me. At times, I dont’t have a clue on how to handle situations. So I decided to research and work on it (being a mom makes you half a psychiatrist).<\/p>\n
After researching on the internet, I found out where I was wrong with my toddler and made few pointers to correct myself. Here are my suggestion from what I learnt. Teach them more responses <\/strong> Focus on the positive<\/strong> Don’t use the word ‘No’ yourself<\/strong> Try to be an effective parent and think about their\u00a0actions from a child’s\u00a0perspective. Be calm and patient while dealing the tantrums of toddlers. Its just a phase and will pass it too. So enjoy every moment of this phase!!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Its a daily routine in house to hear repetitive NO from my 3 year old for everything.\u00a0Sometimes…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":211,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-208","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"yoast_head":"\n
\nGive them options to choose from <\/strong>
\nTwos, twos \u2014 everything comes in twos these days! Offer them choices to chose from but offering a limited choice is absolutely the best way of avoiding a showdown with your toddler. For example – Do you want to wear the white shoes or the red shoes today?; Do you want juice or milk?; Okay, time to choose! Do you want to put away your blocks or your stuffed animals? Two choices are enough at this stage, and this technique can be used for everything from getting dressed\u00a0to solving eating issues.<\/p>\n
\nOne of the reasons toddlers say no so much is they don’t know many other negative words. Help your toddler expand her vocabulary by turning no into a game, What’s the opposite of no? That one is easy. What comes in between no and yes; (Maybe, perhaps, and possibly); What’s a nicer way to say no? No, thank you. If your toddler is very verbal, try, “No, thank you very much, I couldn’t possibly”.<\/p>\n
\nYour toddler doesn’t like hearing “no” all the time from you but think about how many times you say it to her every day.\u00a0For example, “Don’t go out without wearing shoes” is more likely to start an argument than “Please wear shoes before going out otherwise you will get hurt.” Tone is also important. Of course you’re going to yell if your child is about to run into traffic, but she’s more likely to do what you ask when you use a calm, firm voice.<\/p>\n
\nYour toddler might be using the word “no” because he\/she constantly hears the word\u00a0directed at him\/her from you. Remember they are your mirror reflection doing whatever you do.Try to cut back on your own use of the word and use alternatives to no whenever possible. One tactic is to replace the word with other phrases more specific to the situation at hand, like ;Its not safe to play on the stairs, lets play with your blocks instead, or \u201cits not good to hit your friends\u201d ; A toddler has a will \u2014 but she cannot always be exerting it all over the place; says developmental psychologist Denham.<\/p>\n